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Taken from the band Resist and Exist Myspace Blog

Posted on Saturday, June 19, 2010 in Theories

A Wise word from Smash:

Nothing other people do, is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in.

When we take something personally, we make the assumption, that they know what is in our world, and they try to impose their world onto our world.

Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you.

What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programing they received during domestication.

If someone gives you an opinion and says “Hey, you look so fat” or, “Your an asshole,” don’t take it personally, because the truth is that this person is dealing with his or her own feelings, beliefs, and opinions.

Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally their emotional garbage becomes your garbage.

When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts.

You make something big out of something so little, because you have the need to be right and make everyone else wrong.

What people say or what people do or what opinions they have are according to the agreements they have made and have nothing to do with you.

It is not important to me what anyone thinks about me, and I don’t take what anyone thinks personally.

I don’t have the need to be accepted, and I don’t have the need for someone to tell me “Smash your doing good” or “How dare you do that!”

Whatever people think, whatever people feel, I know is their problem and not my problem. It is the way they see the world. It’s nothing personal because they are dealing with themselves, not with me.

You may even tell me, “Smash, what you are saying is hurting me”. But it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said and you are hurting yourself over your own unresolved issues.

Everyone sees the world with different eyes, with their eyes. You can create an entire picture or movie in your mind and in that picture you are the director, you are the producer and you are the main actor or actress.

Your point of view is something personal to you, it is no one’s truth but yours, if people get mad at you, they are dealing with themselves.

If they use you as an excuse to get mad, it is because they are afraid and are dealing with fear, if your not afraid then their is no way you will get mad at someone. If you are not afraid, there is no way you will hate anyone and if you are not afraid then there is no reason you will be jealous or sad.

Do not expect people to always tell you the truth, because they also lie to themselves.

You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to believe what someone says to you. Self reliance is the only way to go!!!

Even if others lie to you, it’s okay, they are lying to you because they are afraid. They are afraid you will discover they are not perfect.

It is painful to take that Social mask off. If other say one thing and do another, you are lying to yourself if you don’t listen to their actions.

But if you are truthful with yourself, you will save yourself a lot of emotional pain.

If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you surely will endure many years of suffering with him or her.

There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you, when you don’t take things personally.
The whole world could gossip about you and if you don’t take it personally you become immune. When you reject people’s negativity and emotional poison it becomes even worse in the sender, but not in you.

You don’t need to place your trust in what others do or say, you only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible for the action of others, only your own.

If you refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.

Original post is here from Resist and Exist band page.

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  1. Pam says:

    Thanks. Glad you are sharing this Jess. It can’t be stated or internalized deeply enough. Love your fabulous self.

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